Surviving and Flourishing in Today’s World

Day to day life can be a bit of a jungle for most of us. With a constant buzz of stimuli, it can be hard to remain grounded or aligned with our true selves. So many factors push and pull us, it’s no wonder there is a mental health epidemic. I’ve had a ponder, and here are some points that helped me to get myself together.

  1. Stop questioning yourself

You know yourself and you know what feels right. It may sound queer if you haven’t come across the concept before, but your mind isn’t actually YOU, it’s more like an annoying sibling that gets kicks from winding you up. Point is, if you think about something for long enough you will achieve nothing. So, less thinking and more doing. Trusting your intuition is a skill that is strenghtened the more you practice it. Your mind can lead you astray, if you let it.

  1. No more comparisons

I make the silly error of giving myself shit for not achieving things that others in my field and of my age have. I’m hard on myself, not giving myself credit that I have done very well to get to where I am given my ‘disadvantaged’ position. I highlight this ‘disadvantaged’ because everything is relative. I may have been disadvantaged compared to those in my field, but to others, I am extremely advantaged. Remember we all come from different walks of life and that’s what makes it interesting. Reward yourself for your success, if not, nobody else will.

So, yeah, hello, there’s a little story called YOUR story, which is different from anybody else’s story. The sooner we learn to embrace our individuality, the sooner we will flourish. Your difference and unique being is the best you can offer the world. It’s the only thing you’ve got that nobody else has. DON’T BE LIKE THEM. BE LIKE YOU.

  1. Understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day

Sure, you’ve got ambition and dreams but don’t be disheartened if things don’t fall into place tomorrow. Anything worth having is worth fighting for (did I just quote Cheryl Cole?). The more time you spend dwelling on how nothing is happening, the more time it’s gonna take for it to HAPPEN. So, get your head in the game. I find making notes in my diary (schedule) each week helps me to maintain focus. I know what I want to achieve week to week. Having a record like this is also good for encouragement – perhaps in times of despair you can look back and have a reality check; hey, you’re not doing so bad after all!

  1. Don’t give in to negative thinking

Life is what you make it. Don’t be a victim and start believing the negative talk and labels. Only you can create the life you want. Get up and do something about it. There will be dark days and there will be bright days, but it’s your perseverance that will need to be the consistent factor.

I, myself, am an extremely conscientious and sensitive character. I just can’t help but be highly affected by other people, even just bumping into people on the street I can feel overwhelmed. This is something that I struggle with on a personal level. I could conduct a psychoanalysis as to why I feel like this and draw conclusions on unhealthy factors of my upbringing that have contributed to this self-consciousness. But why would I dwell on the things that are out of my control? I don’t want to be tied up in that dark world. I want to be the being I truly am and let my light shine through.  I do not let these overwhelming feelings stop me going from going for what I want. My message to you is don’t be stuck in a victim mentality or think that the world owes you something, because believe me, you’ll be waiting a long time for handouts. I’m now going to quote a very wise person I have had the blessing to meet, ‘the Universe is generous, if you are’. The more you put out, the more you get. Sometimes it might feel like it’s taking a long ass mother-f******* time, but good things come to those who persevere.

  1. Don’t Believe the Hype

Be a OG and f**k what people think. If you follow the herd you need to retrace your steps asap and find where YOUR path leads to. The world will always try to dictate to you how to live your life, but do you know what will ground you? YOUR outlook, your experience of life and your story. Be grounded in knowing that you own your sh**. Make your life a noble one and make it count. Stop using your social media accounts as a form of seeking gratification through approval of others. You weren’t born to prove anything to anybody. Invest in yourself and care about what you think of yourself. You don’t have to follow trends to be relevant in this world. If anything, mindlessly following the crowd because of sensationalism and the fear of not fitting in, only dilutes your presence in this world. You owe it to yourself to be free.

Above all, keep it real, be happy and go on road trips like these gals

A Working Holiday

A working holiday is a great way to extend your travelling time whilst learning new skills, trying things you’ve never done before and meeting cool people.

You can use websites such a Help X or Work Away to connect with hosts all over the world who need help with their projects. The work varies from babysitting to farming. You can find something that suites you.

What’s to gain?

With free accommodation, you can afford to stay longer in a chosen destination. A maximum of 5 hours a day will be spent working. The rest of the day is yours, plus 2 days off a week.

  • You can do things you’ve never done before (new skills)
  • You will grow a lot more from the experience than you would sitting at the pool
  • Develop patience with yourself and others
  • The chance to explore a new culture
  • Meet great people and learn how to deal with not so great people
  • Develop your adaptability

What you should know

The agreement should be that you receive 3 meals a day and accommodation for approximately 25 hours work a week. Some hosts don’t offer 3 meals but at least 1 should be provided. It depends on the nature of the work.

Remember, you’re a volunteer, not an employee. If you have a good work ethic, you want your efforts to be appreciated. So make sure you check out the host thoroughly before choosing them. Bad hosts deserve bad volunteers. Vice versa.

How to prepare

Read the reviews. Check when the last review was posted. Don’t be in a rush to get there and enjoy the free accommodation. If you end up with a terrible host, you’ll soon realise you wasted your money travelling to them.

Be real about it. Only apply for a work away that you think you will enjoy and take something from. If you feel in your gut that it might not be for you, don’t do it.

Have a video interview with the host. If they agree to this it’s a good sign that they’re organised and have time for you. Come to an agreement on both sides as to what is expected from each other.

I ended up in the South-East of Spain in mid-August with a host that slept all day and didn’t have enough direction to give me work. I ended up watering the flowers twice a day, which was her one and only job that she decided to give to me. Her lack of enthusiasm and the intense heat quickly demotivated me and I ended up leaving after a few days. At the time I felt it was a waste of money getting to her but I guess all experience is good experience. Point is, you can avoid those situations by following these tips.

Before arrival, ask questions about what work they have lined up: how many hours, what kind of food they provide (maybe you’re a vegetarian and they are not) and accommodation. The point of these questions is not necessarily to find out exactly what the experience will be like, but the interaction will allow you to gage whether they are the right fit for you.

How to make the most of  your free time

I have free styled whilst travelling. The spontaneity has been exciting at times and took me to places I had no idea existed. On the other hand, it can be stressful and expensive. If you know you would like to do a working holiday, it’s worth having your destinations planned out and your work lined up.

Once you’ve confirmed with your hosts you can research the areas you are going to be in. That way, when it comes to your days off you already have an idea of where you want to explore.

It’s always better to have extra cash incase you really aren’t enjoying the experience and want to leave early. This can be an added bonus to your travel – a relaxed holiday in between work away posts (maybe you want to arrange something like this regardless of whether you leave a post early or not).

the best part about working holidays is the wonderful friends you make